Interviewing Melanie Redd from the Woman Living Courageously Podcast on how to find godly mentor. Can you ask or does she have to seek you out? Is it worth it? How to pray about it? Answering all these questions and more.
Where do you find mentors? (By Melanie Redd)
Mentors can be found everywhere! There are positive, encouraging people around us all. You may not have even realize who all God has placed around you in your everyday circles. They are nearby and available if you know who and what to look for!
So, how do you find her? How do you begin a mentoring relationship? Honestly, I always think it works best if the one who wants to be mentored chooses the person, seeks them out and asks them.
Here are 4 steps you can take to discover a great mentor:
1. Pray and ask God to give you at least one godly, positive mentor in your life.
You can always have more than one, but I believe we all need at least one person pouring into us and speaking encouragement into our lives. Put this request at the top of your prayer list and ask the Lord for an incredible mentor!
2. Begin actively seeking a mentor.
Look around at work, church, the gym, in your neighborhood, or at school school…just wherever you spend a great deal of time. Ask yourself these questions:
- Who seems wise?
- Who seems positive and compassionate?
- Also, who seems to have great joy?
- Who do you respect and admire?
- Who seems to be interested in your life?
- Or who do you share some similar experiences with?
I have one young friend who actually walked around her church with a piece of paper in front of her Bible. When she would observe an older woman dealing well with her children, she’d jot down that name. When she saw a happy marriage, she would write down that name…
It was funny then, but from that list, God opened the door for her to have th e most amazing group of mentors!
3. Invite a potential mentor to meet you for coffee or lunch.
You don’t even have to tell that you are basically interviewing her to be your new mentor. Ha! Instead, you might say something like, “Would you have time to grab coffee with me? I’d love to have the chance to get to know you better.”
Then, get to know her and see if she might be a good mentor for you. Do you have enough in common and relate well to each other? Make sure to ask a lot of questions and really listen to their responses.Sometimes you click and sometimes you don’t, and that’s okay, just try again if not! (There is no harm in having 2-3 lunches or coffee dates to get to the best mentor.)
4. Once you KNOW you’d like to be mentored by a certain person, ask them to spend time with you on a regular basis.
Just go for it and stick it out there! You can ask to meet once a month or once a week. It may feel awkward at first, but likely that other person will be greatly honored that you would ask them to mentor you. Honestly, any time a woman has sought me out and asked me to mentor them, I’ve been blessed and so excited to be asked!
I can honestly say I have NEVER turned down a sincere request to mentor someone, because it’s an honor and blesses me too!
About 2 years ago, I had one young woman in our church, also a pastor’s wife, and she asked if we could get together for lunch. I really had no idea why she wanted to meet with me. When I arrived, she had a long list of questions… a very long list! As we were finishing up our lunch, she asked if we could do lunch once a month, and I said, “Yes.”
It was that simple! And I’ve been enjoying time with this sister for five years now. In fact, she’s become one of my closest friends. And that’s the other beauty and benefit of mentoring — It can be the beginning of a beautiful friendship!
Who is Melanie Redd?
Melanie is a pastor’s wife and mom to 2 awesome grown-up kids! She is also a best-selling author, blogger, speaker, and podcaster. She is the host of the Women Living Courageously Podcast that is also a Love Worth Finding Ministry like Faithful 31 Moms.
Recently, Melanie has joined forces with Love Worth Finding to launch a new virtual women’s ministry. It’s called Women Living Courageously.
You can learn more about Melanie and her ministry for women at: https://womenlivingcourageously.org/